Scents - by: Jane Kifer

I wore a Rose scent for years! Rose essence saved my life coming out of my divorce. I needed LOVE! Flowers helped, not kidding. I wore young living Rose oil, then moved on from that to Rose spray and Weleda Rose deodorant. I loved it, lived it, wore it- not over powering, but I liked it. The ritual of spraying it and the scent. For 5 years I loved it. I longed for a scent of my own. I had found it. It was perfect. Then! A couple weeks ago, I sort of felt like my energy dropped when I would put it on. I was wanting something new. My deodorant stopped working and soon I didn't even want to wear the spray. I needed a new scent. I didn't know what but something needed to shift. It worked for me so well for a time and part of me thought " You can't change this is the scent you are, you chose, you have loved!" But that's exactly the point, it was all past tense, it isn't where I am today! So I got rid of it. Moving on. I found a new deodorant that works and I love, I found a new spray scent that totally rocks my world and I am good! Just the mere expectation in myself that I should keep wearing it because it is my thing was making me feel obligated and bringing me down. That's not healthy!

All The Single Ladies! All The Single Ladies... - by: Jane Kifer

Do you know how many times I walk into a house and there are images of one, single woman all over! Especially in the bedroom and the relationship wing. Really? And why you might ask is this important? Oh I don't know, all the complaining these people do about their lack of love life, or breaking down - one sided relationship. LOOK AT THE WALLS! It reflects! It is a clear projection and reflection of a core factor being perpetuated. Keep the beautiful image, but carefully select where it goes.

Grime - by: Jane Kifer

I'll admit it, I don't like dealing with it! GRIME! Slime. The yuck under your stove, top of the fridge, the walls!??!?!? When my old amazing antique Wedgewood stove broke and a repair man came, he pulled it out to deal with it and he looked at me and slowly uttered with his southern draw, "Y o u, maht want to take dis oppOtunity to deal wi dat." As I looked at him, paused and turned my head in the direction he nodded towards, I saw the GRIME. The dust and built up YUCK from tenants ago that wasn't even mine! Not only was I carrying my junk in my home, but other people's junk too! EEEEWWWWW, I scraped, wiped, cleaned and did it all again. He patiently worked and waited and once I felt it was clean, he pushed the very old stove back. JUST WIPE IT! This is a lesson I definitely need to tell myself! It literally is a reflection. What do we allow on our surface, in the eves of our psyche? At our foundation? Interesting to consider. Jane Kifer

Broken Things - by: Jane Kifer

The object BROKE, the metaphor is HUGE. Whenever I accidentally break a cup or something, I always try to back track and see exactly what I was thinking about at that time. It's usually pretty interesting to say the least. I have hung on to very special pottery for most of my adult life, that a very special, grandmother like person made. I hung on to every inch of it in an effort to hang on to every inch of her. Even if it was cracked and leaking, even if it was chipped. I needed to. She was my safety as a child. She saved me, she was the one who was there! IT was the least I could do! She was so very special. I needed to cling (because that is the word I choose to use, it clearly has other connotations...) to any connection I had left to her that I could maintain now that she died - she died 21 years ago! It occurred to me through studying Feng Shui, that this was not healthy. As much as I love and loved her as much as she helped form me and I value her, I am literally clinging to the broken parts. Not the alive, vibrant parts of her. I needed to let it go. I took a photo of it, which used to work for me, but even that, I see now, is clinging to some of the broken pieces. I will delete them, but this was a helpful way for me to transition into giving things away, it was a start. I can let these these special shards of pottery go when I put them in the green bin to go back into the earth. When I recently let go of about 6 items of hers, I laughed out loud and suddenly realized she was laughing at me for keeping all that broken stuff for all those years. If she were alive, and I can hear in the alive part of her spirit now, she would have smashed them to the ground and said, "LET GO JANE, they are broken, why do you want these?!" Once when I was making jewelry with a German steel tool, I was pondering something about my intention around a certain area in my divorce. I was wondering if in setting certain boundaries, I was being rude and mean and if I was looking at all the parts. As I twisted the wire around the beads in the necklace I was making, all of the sudden, the German steel unbreakable- last 20 years tool, snapped off! Flew across the room and shot straight into the wall! I sat there, slightly frozen and looked up where it flew and hit and thought, "Oh shit." I was still. I thought, "Oh my god, I am really glad that didn't hit my eye. That would have sucked." Then it metaphorically hit me! Poof! What? Do I need to be hit in the head to "see" it?!?!?!? and make it clear for me? That thought I was having when it all went down, suddenly became VERY clear, and I stopped second guessing myself based on fears. All of those broken things we hold on to: intending to fix, intending to glue, intending to make into art, intending to take to repair, intending to give to someone who could easily fix it. GET RID OF IT! You are literally hanging on to the broken parts. Let them go. Perhaps look at it as if the "thing" is telling you it's time and purpose are OVER, say thank you very much and move on!

I Ching - by: Jane Kifer

Hahahahahaha! Yes we are studying the Iching. Amazing. I have no idea how it works as of yet, but the part I mostly connect with is, it is called "the book of changes". As I have read and done some readings, I realize this the most- I, typically seek fixed answers. What is this answer, what shall I do , when will this get better? And with most of these readings, I am dissatisfied. Mostly because there is not an absolute answer. OF COURSE, and I have come to wrap around that pretty little brain of mine, that things change. Sometimes, it is a slow, yet active patient change. Sometimes the change is a paced evolution, not less kinetic or effective, but not a finite, direct, instant answer. This is something I realized in getting back together with my boyfriend. We had a breakdown of sorts at one point. I blamed him for all the wrong parts, only to finally see all the parts that worked and the parts I also contributed to what I call the breakdown of us. In reaching out to him again, I had to believe that things could be better. It was a new understanding that people can change and grow and evolve. Of course the old fearful adage, "people don't change" tried to creep in and I said, STOP, WAIT! I sure as hell hope I have grown and changed and am making better choices for myself and my life, I would have to believe he has too. I knew I had to believe this for him as well (I saw the change in him on a core level, but I was still skeptical and stayed away) if I honestly hoped and believed that for myself. Turns out I was right. haha. We both had "changed" for the better, we went through our deepest darkest fears alone and emerged clearer with less baggage towards each other. Now in terms of the iching and any life question I have asked, the answer is always the same, in a way, Hang in there! Maybe that is just my "fortune" and lesson on this plane, but the continuous theme is ever so clear. I think I finally have started to hear it.

Fascinating Logo Facts - by: Jane Kifer

As we study business and logos, it is fascinating to see a logo and it's positive or negative components as it relates to Feng Shui. Based on the Ba Gua, if you apply the map to your logo, it is apparent where the challenging areas are and where the successes are. The logo for my children's school, has a sort of loop around the name with an opening- not a fully closed circle, in the relationship corner. I saw this, but knew nothing about the relationships between the heads of school and anyone they dealt with. As time evolved, I realized the relationships are not great and there is poor communication and no one seems to ever like each other or get along. Amazing! Then I looked at our old school which is a triangle. It lacks the relationship and abundance areas, and this is clearly a challenge in the school, it is constantly loosing money, there are many different modes of thinking which result in not being able to move forward because of the lack of cohesiveness amongst the varying interests and ways of those involved. It's totally intriguing!I love how everything has symbolic representation in ways we don't even know about yet!

Damn Laundry Room - by: Jane Kifer

I have a bag started to get rid of stuff! yay me,- NO, not yay me. I put it, once again, for the holding period until it is full, in my laundry room. Fine enough, NO NOT FINE enough! It is my relationship corner and let me tell you , we are constantly doing laundry! Emotionally, constantly getting old patterns and shit out! So exhausting (and amazing). I made a deliberate choice to put a pinkish, beige, whiteish abstract painting I made in there, and I hung pictures up of two birds facing each other and a little post it of two hearts. That helped actually, things calmed down and became less "house cleaning" with our hearts. I stopped gathering bags to give away there, but , yesterday I thought one little bag hung up would be okay right? Ugh I am going to go move it. We had the wonderful experience of cleaning out more emotional stuff last night. Not my favorite way to spend my time, but worth it in the end- always. I need to go move it. Next to my desk seems okay, only thing is the kids get into it and pull everything I want to give away back out and then I'm cleaning up even more! In my bedroom I also honored the relationship corner more. I put a photo of my partner and myself, TWO PLANTS that are healthy and blooming. The relationship corner of the house and or of the bedroom are the most back right corner from walking in the door. Keep in mind not every home is a perfect square, like my little dilapidated bungalow of perfection, but unless the area is missing in some way, this should be honored with intention and awareness for healthy relationships. Trust me!

Headboard Means Support - by: Jane Kifer

Let's talk Headboards! Turns out they are sort of important, especially for a couple. It needs to be wood and solid and attached to the bed. It is there to support you two! Make changes. It's important for your relationship. I finally bought a bed as an adult and I LOVE it, I am a grown up- Wahoo! Thankfully it has a great headboard- as I started taking the Feng Shui class I realized it's importance- whew, good choice Jane. They also say that there should be space under the bed, not on the ground type of bed. AND NO CLUTTER under there! Put the wrapping paper, sweaters and JUNK SOMEWHERE ELSE! This is not a storage dumping ground, this is a sacred space where you spend half of your life. Don't sleep on a heap of stuff like the princess and the pea, believe me, those quantum particles will be felt in your life! My mentor actually said, if you are trying to have a baby, it is helpful for the space under the bed to collect ling particles- a sort of energetic dust in creation. I, however, am NOT interested in conceiving at this time, so I make sure to sweep under there often!

I Am The Teacher, You Are The Student - by: Jane Kifer

Have you noticed whether you are the teacher or the student, some classes are chaos and some classes are organized? Well, check this out- The teacher's desk should always face the door to have the "command" position. The students should have their back to the door. Since this understanding, I have noticed in my own classes, this phenomenon. When I am facing the door and they are between me and the door, everything is under control and calmer. When My side or back is to the door, NO ONE is listening and it feels like all hell is breaking loose with the 4-11 year olds! And that is not so much fun. So Now I intentionally make sure I am facing the door! It doesn't matter what direction or layout they are as a group as long as I , the great maestro am facing the door. Then we can all be present and offering our best selves for the class.