Feng Shui Door, A Way In - by: Jane Kifer

In studying Feng Shui and the BTB black sect, 3 year accredited program I am in, I have learned, there are many "doors" in. Into your psyche, your soul, your stuck parts, your trauma. It can be feng shui, healing light, essential oils, therapy, prayer, YOU NAME IT. Keep searching, keep growing, keep learning. Be vulnerable, Be strong, Be weak, Have hope for yourself, acknowledge your failures ( don't dwell and don's pass over it), celebrate your successes. Look at the real thing, even when it hurts, own it. Get support through one of these healthy modalities to get stuff inside you moving! And remember, as these recessed layers leave us, we feel the pain more intensely as when it got imprinted. We tend to want to shy away and not look at it because it's painful, BUT don't! Move through it! Breath! Own it! and FLOURISH! My boyfriend said to me years ago, " Jane I don't want you to just survive, I want you to thrive." That was like a lightbulb hitting me on my head. I had spent my whole life trying to survive I forgot about the thrive piece. Very different place to work from. SO make an effort and figure out your shit and move on!

Feng Shui Space - By: Jane Kifer

Space, be it energetic, or a physical home. When things are cleared out, it allows room for more and new stuff. It is that simple. Sometimes it is relationships, attitudes or a packed garage. I am always amazed to see how long we live with a subpar dynamic only to feel relieved and free once it is let go. And Wow, what fills that space is better and bigger and proof of growth. Ditch the asshole friend, Bye to the bad marriage, No way to old patterns of dealing, unload the "stuff" you are hoarding- and make way for what is yet to come! Welcome!

Reacting and Responding- by: Jane Kifer

Some people do not realize they react to situations. They are checked out and can only respond from the place of fear which is reacting. Acknowledge this space and take a deep breath and say " Whew I am pissed! Or sad! or overwhelmed " and explain why or say you don't know why and ask for another time to speak about it. It will fair much better for everyone. Less hurt and blame. Sometimes I feel completely saturated and wish everyone would stop talking to me, but I take it on and go beyond my limit and comfort and then when they don't stop, I verbally freak out. That isn't fair. I knew I was saturated way before the boiling point. Now, even to my kids I say " Hold UP, I need some space, I am totally overwhelmed right now." It works wonders.