Patterns , Readjusting and Clearing Patterns

Damnit! Those patterns, those behaviors, that keep coming up. I don't mean eating or smoking weed or reacting or being defensive. I mean those themes that just don't seem to go away! It can be anything! I feel Fat, Why do I still feel like I have no money! Sometimes it feels like no matter how much, belief, meditation, angels, prayer or wine we drink or yoga we do, or running we do, its still there!!! Recently I had a recurring theme that I thought GEEZUS! Clearly it's trying to get my attention. So rather than think positively, hope and pray and believe, - which did NOT make it go away, when The same thing happened AGAIN with a work situation, I thought "Hold the presses! Clearly there is a lesson I need to learn. WHAT IS IT!?" Asking that question and breaking it down and shedding light on it, is like an instant incinerator to the problem! Poof, it all goes up in flames when you identify it. And then you can move forward. Email me for specific help with your theme that keeps popping up and preventing you from Growing and moving on Already!!!! janewkifer@gmail.com And visit www.janekifer.com for more on the work I do and we can do together. It's a new time, it's a new moon, it's a new year. It'll happen, just keep putting one foot in front of the other in the direction of your dreams.

Shadows and Dark Places

Yes it's that time again where we deal with the Shadows, the dark bits. This can relate to the dark corners of your home and OH THE METAPHOR, the dark places of our consciousness. YIKES! I read a great book ten years ago that made so much sense to these ideas. DARK SIDE OF THE LIGHT CHASERS, By: Debbie Ford. She explains how when we are young we learn to shut down parts of ourselves. Like if we think of ALL emotions as a giant castle and every emotion has a room. We learn, that in our particular family to survive there is no place for anger, or no place for tears, or no place for pride, or definitely no place for poverty, or being wealthy. All sorts of things get curated. So one by one we shut the door and NEVER ENTER THE CLOSED ROOM of our souls. Never enter those emotions. What typically comes about as we grow up is they come BURSTING out when you least want it. Because we cannot look at it within ourselves, we can only see it in others, only see it in others by being completely annoyed by them, or envying them. We can only view these emotions in judgement and an internal exclamation how we "are not that!" and thus better, for our survival. We had to! From this book I welcomed this amazing exercise she recommended. She said when we are annoyed at someone for being something, ask ourselves first "How am I like that?" OHHHHHHHH no no no. But yes yes yes. Do it. It's amazing. I worked in this amazing million dollar ( not kidding) bead store, where we had hundreds of customers every day! It was a perfect place to practice. I could NEVER handle the ANNOYING mid 30-40 year old women who could not make a decision! Make a fucking choice already!!! Mallory, who I worked with could never handle teen agers or old people. While I could help them until the day is long happily. We traded customers often, knowing this about each other. So as these mid 30 and 40 year olds couldn't decide which bead they liked or what they wanted to make and I wanted to chop off their heads, I took a deep breath and said "hmmm what annoys me here?" Their COMPLETE AND UTTER INDECISION. Next Step: How am I like that? UGH. Oh wait let me see, I'm so afraid of making a wrong decision that I make no decision or I take 20 years to make one or I put myself in situations where others make them even if they aren't what I want. Next Step: How has that served me? I don't get in trouble. I don't fail, I don't get chastised for doing something wrong. HMMM well that may have served me and helped me survive as a child, but it most certainly does not help me thrive today. Its a fantastic exercise. You can read more on the work I do that helps areas like this here. https://www.janekifer.com/shamanic-healing

Piercing Heart Doors

I never, ok we'll apparently not never, but I do not typically open my mouth about Feng Shui things I see to people unless they are my friends and I see a glaring issue, OR I am asked. Even if I am asked, outside of a whole consultation I wouldn't typically unleash it all on the question. There's a lot of energy put into the exchange of a consultation and I do not throw the info around lightly. That being said, when I picked up my son today from his best friend's grandfather's house, I said to them- it just came out of my mouth. It was like lights going off- bing! bing! bing! I guess that would be more of a bell. But I saw the double entry doors lined up with the large archway and the double back french doors. I paused, and then did not pause. I won't typically say it means bloodshed as that would be scary to hear and even ask. But as I said "It's piercing heart doors you should put a rug (thinking a crystal would scare them)." Then it all unfolded out of my mouth. "Oh my god, Your husband just had a hole in his heart and surgery for it!" I did not hesitate, "Hang a crystal". She said, "Oh he's had that for over a decade." I blurted out, " Well we choose the house that matches or the house unfolds its energies in us, but hang a crystal right here!" I pointed to the doorway. I added "on a red string." When she asked "why?" I said, "For protection." I left it at that, thinking this was enough to hold for everyone. My son's best friend left the house and said "Your mom's doing that weird Feng Shui shit in my grandparents house" . When my son told me this, I said, "He's lucky, one day, I'll be the person he calls when he needs help." : )

How To Thrive

You have spent so many years surviving, You did it you are a survivor! We all are. I ask you to go one step further - move from surviving to thriving! You can do it, get out of your own way, get past the trauma, stop talking about it. YES it helped you survive, to understand, heal etc, MOVE ON... Quit complaining, quit telling the story and move past it. Move your body, strengthen your nervous system. I just told my 14 year old son the other day, "Hey I have a life lesson for you, when things suck, like really suck, take it as boot camp, take it as training that is strengthening your nervous system to handle anything" he said "ok" lol. But I ask you too! You have done the work, you have taken the classes, you have acknowledged your damage, faced your fears, healed your past- NOW get a move on it! Go thrive! It takes an enormous amount of work, but own it, do it, make it happen! you can do it. I promise. It will be so very rewarding.

Feng Shui and Business

I see businesses go out of business all the time and I think, "Oh no! it actually was a great idea, product and plan!" What they didn't realize is the Feng Shui of the space! You can clearly see from the outside, the missing areas in their logo, the recessed doors. Theres NO WAY that could have made it. Even with the greatest of business plans and ideas, if certain factors are poor, it won't work. Large columns in the center of the space- not good. Overpowering buildings, not great. Adjustments can be made, but these are important factors to address or essentially little chance of success. Get help before you sing the lease!