Feng Shui Door, A Way In - by: Jane Kifer

In studying Feng Shui and the BTB black sect, 3 year accredited program I am in, I have learned, there are many "doors" in. Into your psyche, your soul, your stuck parts, your trauma. It can be feng shui, healing light, essential oils, therapy, prayer, YOU NAME IT. Keep searching, keep growing, keep learning. Be vulnerable, Be strong, Be weak, Have hope for yourself, acknowledge your failures ( don't dwell and don's pass over it), celebrate your successes. Look at the real thing, even when it hurts, own it. Get support through one of these healthy modalities to get stuff inside you moving! And remember, as these recessed layers leave us, we feel the pain more intensely as when it got imprinted. We tend to want to shy away and not look at it because it's painful, BUT don't! Move through it! Breath! Own it! and FLOURISH! My boyfriend said to me years ago, " Jane I don't want you to just survive, I want you to thrive." That was like a lightbulb hitting me on my head. I had spent my whole life trying to survive I forgot about the thrive piece. Very different place to work from. SO make an effort and figure out your shit and move on!

Feng Shui Space - By: Jane Kifer

Space, be it energetic, or a physical home. When things are cleared out, it allows room for more and new stuff. It is that simple. Sometimes it is relationships, attitudes or a packed garage. I am always amazed to see how long we live with a subpar dynamic only to feel relieved and free once it is let go. And Wow, what fills that space is better and bigger and proof of growth. Ditch the asshole friend, Bye to the bad marriage, No way to old patterns of dealing, unload the "stuff" you are hoarding- and make way for what is yet to come! Welcome!

Reacting and Responding- by: Jane Kifer

Some people do not realize they react to situations. They are checked out and can only respond from the place of fear which is reacting. Acknowledge this space and take a deep breath and say " Whew I am pissed! Or sad! or overwhelmed " and explain why or say you don't know why and ask for another time to speak about it. It will fair much better for everyone. Less hurt and blame. Sometimes I feel completely saturated and wish everyone would stop talking to me, but I take it on and go beyond my limit and comfort and then when they don't stop, I verbally freak out. That isn't fair. I knew I was saturated way before the boiling point. Now, even to my kids I say " Hold UP, I need some space, I am totally overwhelmed right now." It works wonders.

Out with the Old, In with the New! - By: Jane Kifer

Happy NEW YEAR! It's not the Chinese New Year yet, so you have time to get more "stuff" in order! I just threw away 25 years of photos and journals. I had journals I wanted to save my whole life for my kids to read about my life and my inspiration and my travels as a teenager modeling through out Europe. I thought how excited they'd be to know my life! And just recently, I started to realize, All the "STUFF" I carried around the world and saved for them, for me, didn't matter anymore. The pictures didn't have the same meaning or hope or value they once had, because I grew. It wasn't the best time of my life anymore. It was one of many best times of my life and I see things differently and what is attached to it and the reality of it and how that experience revealed itself, actually felt empty in comparison to who I am today. I was carrying things around as proof of a life I loved, but honestly I am proof of a life I love. As I opened the bin to go through every photo and decide if I kept it or moved it on it's journey to paper recycling, I discovered something so intriguing. The favorite journals I so valued in my life and my experience which have always been a source of joy for me to comb through, didn't matter anymore in the same way. And they were water damaged and molded shut. The ink all ran together, the pages stuck shut. It was not a coincidence. It was confirmation that it didn't have purpose anymore. I have the best imprints of the time in my being. I didn't need to hold on to the wonderful groups of people who loved me, the only proof of love I held on to to know I was going to be ok, it was to overcompensate for the love I so seeked from my disappearing Mother and my father. I have love and growth and family now. I have fulfillment in my soul and journey. I don't need the paper tracking the past that kept me alive. I definitely kept many photos, probably over 100, But I tossed 3 garbage bags full of the past into the trash bin and it feels right.

Color, Object, Jewelry, Oil, Art- Feng Shui - By: Jane Kifer

Put that color on your wall, Put a specific pillow on your couch, Buy a piece of jewelry, Wear a certain oil, Do it. Do one, Do it all, with INTENTION! Do it with a purpose, with an intention for yourself for change, for love prosperity, health! You name it! Think of it, say it, feel it. You are essentially programming what serves your highest good. Every time you wear it, see it, use it, it is a reminder to the world that your intention is happening and being created and is developing- and will come to you! After I got divorced, I repainted my living room wall. Before I added the new color, I wrote on the wall, LOVE, JOY, FUN, HARMONY. Then I painted the wall. I knew it was in there. How could I not. Set a tone for yourself with a symbol in your home.

If you need help- By : Jane Kifer

Over the past two years I have had some pretty amazing experiences with animals and seen what the spirit of an animal can do and represents in someone's life. Perhaps it is an animal or insect that you constantly notice you are seeing. Or perhaps it is the idea of an animal. What I have noticed lately in the work I am doing is that animals come in the form of spirit guides to help us. If you ask your spirit guides to come help you in your life, who shows up? Don't judge it. Welcome it . Look up the symbolism of it, thank it for coming, allow it to help you in your journey. It's a beautiful support that none other can offer. The other day I did a session with a client and I asked her spirit guides and angels for help and an elk came running super fast to to the forefront of my minds eye. The elk is with her and helping her and there for her and she didn't even know it. I shared this with her and she was moved to tears. Rely on your animal. This woman needed support and power and strength, she paces herself with all that's going on in her life but needs support. Another client, a monkey came to the picture and that resonated greatly with her. She shared she dreamt of a monkey for years. I told her to allow the monkey to help add playfulness to her life and when she was stressed just think of the money dancing around and taking that controlled chaotic stress away, there to help her. The world is here for us. Animals have appeared in my path at times and in places where that animal would never be and does't typically live. I enjoy the special gift and the magic and the reminder that we are not alone.

Trauma and Light - by: Jane Kifer

Our mentors say that traumas occur in our lives and can make a lesion on our brain. The lesion allows and opens up an opportunity for sickness and vulnerability. Essentially stuck energy. In all areas that are stuck, if you envision an energetic light passing through your entire being and portion of your body, you will only aid in reparation and redevelopment of healthy cells. It is an energetic shift. Calm your heart, center your being, however you are comfortable doing that. If you don't know how, just start by sitting calmly or lying down. Take deep breaths and picture a golden light washing over your entire being and inside and out of every nook and cranny of your inside self. Doing this will rejuvenate and heal and will support anything else you are doing for yourself. Picture all that black tar stuck stuff getting burned up in the sun. Let the universe deal with your unwanted "stuff".

A little Light and a Little Breath - By:Jane Kifer

Do yourself a favor! BREATH! Deeply. Regularly. Play a game and picture a light, a white light streaming, or swirling or shooting through every neuron in your body. Every cell, muscle, nerve ending. Every space and fingertip. Do it for your mental health, do it for your physical health. Picture your breath and your light moving from your heart outward, or picture it moving from your feet up! Do it. You can do it lying down or sitting at your desk, as you fall asleep, or make a moment for yourself to do it. You will feel more balanced, invigorated and peaceful. Promise

Where Do You Feel It In Your Body? - By: Jane Kifer

I have had my own experience of things flying out of my mouth and not even knowing I am angry! I have seen things fly out of teacher's mouths at feeling inadequate or frustrated, I have seen people clam up in certain situations! Shut down, retreat. Whatever your reaction is I offer you this, before this occurrence, where do you feel it in your body? My boyfriend and son both requested I stop yelling at them years ago. I didn't even realize I was, I didn't feel like I was. And anyway, they weren't listening! So instinctually, I yelled! To me it was more of a passionate lively emphatic expression, but to them it was scary. So not wanting to loose my boyfriend or damage my son, I listened! Just before this response you have, where and what do you feel in your body. I realized I feel a rolling fire rise up in my chest and throat and then it came hurling out. Now, As I feel that feeling rise up , I calm down, take a second and say to myself, "Oh Hello there, I'm pissed, I don't feel heard, I'm overwhelmed and I want to freak out!" So now after time and practice, I stop, have a little conversation with myself and then articulate something on the lines of, " I'm feeling frustrated, I'm feeling overwhelmed." This allows the other person to understand and pause without being attacked! Many years ago I had a primal fear in a certain situation that was all from a traumatic experience in my childhood. In my mind this actual impending doom was possible, But when I settled into the feeling, I could feel the numbness and paralysis in my thighs that made me immobile with fear. Once I could acknowledge that, I was better able to breakdown reality and where the fear was stemming from. So, I implore you to take a beat and feel- where is the sensation in your body and how would you describe it? Recognizing it and bringing awareness to it can help bring about beautiful growth and change, and in my expereince will definitely add beautiful things to your life.